You Never Know The Pain Behind A Smile – Best Way To Handle Sadness

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Life is full of ups and downs: a common saying. Everyone experiences these two factors through the course of their lives. Some people experience the former more than the latter.  If I talk about myself though, it’s been the downs that have been a majority in my life .Whenever happiness tries to knock on my door of life, the clouds of sadness don’t allow it to enter. But I can’t complain because it is all a part of one’s destiny I believe.

I know that there are a lot of people in this world who suffer more than me and still fight with their problems and deal with life successfully.

We often see the smiling faces of models and actresses and  think that these celebrities and superstars are rich and well settled in their life without any pains and sufferings but reality is not exactly what we think. Behind the bright sparkling smile  and immaculate faces there can be a crying and wounded heart.

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We can’t see or feel the pain hidden behind someone’s smile

How to Wear Off Shoulder BlouseI have been facing a lot of unfortunate situations in my life earlier. Recently I had to deal another storm of pain when my father got seriously ill in Iran.
He was on a visit of holy Karbala in Iraq and then Iran for ziyrat with my mother and sister.
They completed most of their journey without any problem but the unfortunate incident happened just after reaching Iran. He was not only hospitalized but also had to go on ventilator. The situation was so miserable that we were unable to understand what to do. He was with a travelling tour with a group of other tourists. The group people couldn’t stay there. The staff of the hospital spoke Persian language. They rarely spoke or understood English. it was very hard to focus on the right thing to do. Me and my sisters were totally out of our mind. We communicated with WhatsApp/Skype only. We lived with a strange fear. We didn’t know what was going to happen. I believed in God. I continuously kept praying to Him.

I couldn’t sleep for 4-5 nights. Every moment was like a burden on our minds. We  used to comfort each other, give strength to each other and some times used to fight with frustration and helplessness. But amidst our fears and sadness we all kept deep faith in God. That we weren’t wrong, that our prayers would be answered and our father would get well. We all have strong faith in God but still cried silently. The strange fear of loss kept hovering in my mind like an insect.

That was probably 5th sleepless night,  while offering Fijr(morning) namaz and praying to God deeply from inside my heart, with tears rolling from my eyes, I felt a strange peace and relaxation in me. I don’t remember exactly how long. The only thing I felt clearly was that Someone had listened to me and He will take care of everything now. The next morning my sister informed me that my father’s condition was improving. The news was like a fresh breeze for all of us. The storm started to calm and we all knew that all was going to be fine.

After 3 days, doctors allowed him to travel back to India  There were still some risks in this journey but we all assured ourselves that all would be fine.

My father is now in Delhi and feeling quite better. His treatment has resumed here and I hope that he will get well soon.

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“Life is like a roller coaster. It’s one wild ride, but worth every second!”

I read this famous quote when I was in school, that time I was unable to understand the real meaning n purport of this sentence. But the life taught me the truth behind this quote. When circumstances  are in your control, you take it for granted and no fear approaches your mind but when it’s out of your control and the  road of life starts leading you to a  darker way then you get to know the hardship and uncertainty of life. I experienced it several times in my life, which actually feel like a roller coaster ride. You are doubtful some times and hopeful the next moment. Some times a little bit hesitant  fearful shaky and next minute thrilled. You swing with  a lot more ups and downs on this ride but the thing that make you successful in this ride is your patience. Patience, persistence and belief in God bring you to your destination successfully.

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How to deal with sadness

When the octopus of uncertainty and fear clenches  you, when things do not work as planned, it is really hard to deal with it. You often lose your control. It happened with me too but I never gave up.  I Learned from life how to deal with my fear, unnerving risk and fear of loss. I got to know that every day of our life is a challenge which we have to accept. We have to accept it either happily or unwillingly. So why not to take it as a challenge.

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The things that really work

If you get yourself in such a big stressful situation, keep the following ways in your mind. Believe me they really work.

Complete faith in God

The most effective method that will help you overcome the storm of stress is praying to the almighty God. Hardly matters what religion you follow, believe deep inside your heart. Keep praying, request to the real Super power and submit everything matter in His hands. He really takes care of everything perfectly, just trust Him.

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Try to control over your emotions and fear

Off course, it’s difficult no one can understand the situation you u are in but you have to do something to control it. Talk to someone you love or  rather  sitting alone and crying. I shared my fear and emotion with someone I feel close.

Do whatever things you love to do

Another tough task that you can’t think of doing in such condition but you have to do it to deal with it. Read books or do whatever things you love to do which you think can take you out of stress. For me, it’s the blogging that prevented me from going out of control. I remember, I was crying but still didn’t give up writing my blog post. Sometimes I feel a guilt by doing so but I knew this is the only thing that channelizes my emotions.

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I’m wearing:

Jeans – H&M

Blousehere 

Baghere

16 Comments

  1. October 16, 2017 / 03:13

    you look beautiful hun…and hope every single day brings you a smile!!
    kisses from the sandpit ☀️☀️
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  2. October 16, 2017 / 07:29

    WOW, great post.
    And you look so damn beautiful!!
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  3. October 16, 2017 / 16:25

    So true and I agree with you, I’m so sorry for your father and I do really hope he gets better and heals soon, I can imagine what u went through recently. You always look beautiful and ur smile certainly brightens up the gloomy days. Hugs! xo

  4. October 16, 2017 / 16:51

    You look so beautiful and I’m so glad for your dad!
    Your lace top is everything!
    Kisses, Paola.

    Expressyourself

  5. October 16, 2017 / 18:38

    Wow, I love everything, I love your shoes especially 🙂
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  6. October 16, 2017 / 21:08

    I’m so sorry to hear about your father’s illness. Good to hear he is doing better and hopefully he will be back to 100% real soon.

  7. October 17, 2017 / 03:44

    I am so glad your dad is better now. Thanks for sharing such a personal story. Btw, great look!

    Tina
    http://www.justatinabit.com

  8. Pam
    October 17, 2017 / 05:38

    love the outfit, the top is gorgeous! Glad your dad is doing better. And I agree, my faith helps me so much!
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

  9. October 17, 2017 / 14:36

    Sending your dad well wishes, lady!

    I love this look- the burgundy and lace make such a good combo!

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

  10. October 17, 2017 / 16:51

    I hope he’s better now!
    u r looking gorgeous as always,
    love the red touch of the shoes!
    kisses from Spain,
    S

  11. October 17, 2017 / 19:28

    So glad that your father is doing better. This is a very beautiful post!

  12. October 20, 2017 / 04:54

    Chamberofbeauty, Your dress is very beautiful
    I love your shoes
    you look beautiful