Listen To Your Heart But Not Always
I have heard since childhood that we should listen to our heart. Not just me, I suppose all of you have been taught the same by your elders that whenever there is a conflict between your mind and heart, you should go with your heart because the voice that comes from your heart actually is an inner voice which leads to the right path. Do you think this is true?
Maybe sometimes it is, but it can be just the opposite in some situations. Sometimes listening to your heart can land you in a very miserable situation. Unfortunately, it has happened to me too as I’m a person who doesn’t care much about her mind and prefers to listen to her heart. Every time when I realize my mistakes I decided to go with my mind but I really don’t know if I will stick to my decision or not because it’s really difficult for a sensitive person.
I have faced these states many times when my conscience knew I was going to be wrong but my heart wanted what it wanted. Trust me it happens, I am sure you all too have gone through such circumstances. I had a friend ( now in Australia); can’t say a close one as it was just a few years of friendship. When I met her, I didn’t know her and never saw her before but there was something in her which appealed to me. I think it was the strange sadness in her eyes. Even though I’m a reserved person and don’t get mixed up quickly with anyone, I was surprised how quickly she came close to me.
Anyway, I will not go into much details but once she told me her story about a relationship she had. She was in love with a guy who was quite richer than her. But he loved her and promised to marry her. That relationship went for quite long and when it came to taking a decision, he surrendered to his family and got married to some other girl. She told me how she was completely broken after ending that relationship but still was trying to overcome that situation. But after a few months, one night that guy called her and told her about his compulsion that how his family forced him to marry that girl while he didn’t want. He deeply apologized to her and wished to keep that relationship continued. And she did exactly what he wanted. I warned her to quit this stupidity and reminded her how poorly that person had treated her earlier. We both knew he was simply playing with her emotions. But she was helpless. She told me that she knew that I was right, even she knew that at the first moment of his call. Her mind warned her that he was not honest and all his excuses were fake but her heart truly wanted the person because she loved him.
After a few more years when he left her alone, she found her in very miserable conditions but luckily after some time she got married to someone and went to Australia.
I have witnessed and heard of old people who are treated by their children awfully, but they’re still helpless with their hearts. Whenever it comes to make a strict decision, they are emotionally blackmailed by their own progeny and find themselves in great torment and pain.
Leave others, let me talk about myself; I don’t even remember how many times I have found myself in these conditions. Despite being aware of this fact that my mind was right here, I took decisions from my heart. And it happened, several times I got to know that many people took advantage of my decision.
I am not saying that we should never listen to our heart, no, sometimes decisions that are taken from the heart lead you to the right way but not always. Life is a strange puzzle. Sometimes very smooth and easy but very difficult the next moment. Sometimes you face some critical circumstances and suddenly you find that you are losing everything. Sometimes people criticize you in such a way that you feel very embarrassed. You start losing your confidence and think about yourself just like others because at that time you listen to your heart, not to your mind. I’m saying it from my own experience. Under many circumstances, whenever I listened to my mind, I saved myself from further failures and regrets.
Coming to my outfit
I recently wore this woollen tunic to a day function. It’s a beautiful jumper made of really fine material and has a gorgeous fit. The colours are suitable for winters. I wore it on a sunny afternoon with a black pair of jeans. Accessorized my outfit with an olive green hat and finished my look with red heels.
Tunic – LimeRoad
Jeans – Zaful here
Heels – Old here
Hat – H&M