Hey I’m Not Rude, I’m Just An Introvert…

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Last week I was contacted by some people who wanted me to come to their institute in Dehradun and tell the students about my journey of blogging. That was not a new proposal for me, I have gotten such proposals before but as always I refused politely. It’s not that that I don’t understand the importance of such proposals or I don’t want to share my experience with others, it’s just that I’m a very homely person and run from being in the limelight myself. The other reason is that I don’t think I find a comfort zone while speaking about myself in front of a lot of people. Perhaps, belonging to a conservative family such things make me uncomfortable. I can write my answers but not speak up as easily in front of others. It’s a minus point for a blogger, I admit but this the fact and I can’t change it. So, I explained them politely about my refusal and why I couldn’t due to certain other personal reason. In that conversation, I felt that they weren’t convinced with the reason I had given them. I’m pretty sure they would have considered me a bit rude but the truth is that I’m not rude or arrogant, I’m just an introvert and shy.
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‌It’s true, that when people meet a person who is an introvert they get a truly wrong illusion about them that they are rude but people can’t understand that the one they are considering rude is introvert and has the habit of being shy and can’t open up in many people but who can make them understand. My heart says that judging people from their first impression is just very dumb and foolish. We should let them be a bit open and motivate them to express themselves. People just don’t understand these problems. If we look at today’s generation they just want cool people around them and if anyone doesn’t like to talk much they just consider him or her a creep.
I think people should understand the difference between introverts and rudeness and then judge someone.
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I have been an introvert since my childhood. I’m not that much capable of making new friends. Even in school days, my only closest friend was my sister. I got this nature from my father. He actually has been such a kind-hearted person but an introvert from nature. I was totally like him. I remember, our relatives often used to the complaint against me for this nature.

I often noticed that when meeting someone for the first time, my cousins were quick to warm up to them and have a lot to say in order to best introduce themselves. Unfortunately, I didn’t exactly thrive in talking about myself, so I often came off as rude upon first meeting them. But the truth is, I just get incredibly uncomfortable and shy meeting new people, and don’t exactly know what to say at all times.

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Honestly speaking, I was so shy by nature. Always remained far away from the crowd. That was my nature and it was not so that I didn’t try to change myself.  Whenever my mother used to explain about it and warned me that how harmful that kind of nature could be for myself in future, I kept promising her to change my nature but…the truth is that you can’t change your real nature. I was shy and introvert but not rude or arrogant at all. Like my parents, I have been a kind-hearted, loving and sensitive person. People who are close to me and know me personally, they understand my character and nature. Yes, I am hesitant in coming ahead and extending a hand in friendship but once I have made a friend, I never leave. I never forget those I love.
Coming to my outfit:
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These pics are taken in my Delhi trip in June when I came back from Odisha. Meeting my sister and her family is always a pleasure. On that day, we both went for a walk and then made our minds to click some pictures. As always, I had worn a simple and comfy Indo-Western outfit. I wore a black shirt dress which I bought from Westside a few months ago. I paired it with blue jeans and flats. Finished it with a casual bag, watch and sunglasses and done. It’s an outfit everyone can carry so easily. You can dress up like that for anywhere from your office to college as well as shopping.

I’m wearing:

Dress – Westside
Jeans – H&M
Flats – Saint G Womens
Watch -Titan
Sunglasses – Fastrack
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26 Comments

  1. August 13, 2018 / 06:41

    You look super cute and comfy! Have a great week! xx

    • rakhshanda
      Author
      August 14, 2018 / 03:50

      Thanks babe <3

  2. August 13, 2018 / 09:47

    In love with this dress Rakhshanda! My husband is an introvert as well so I understand your hesitation with public speaking. I hope you put yourself out there sometime because you have so much to offer. Thanks for sharing your journey!

    https://www.kathrineeldridge.com

    • rakhshanda
      Author
      August 14, 2018 / 03:56

      Thanks, Kat, the problem is that most people don’t understand such kinds of nature and make a wrong illusion about them. These things really hurt.

    • rakhshanda
      Author
      August 14, 2018 / 03:58

      Agree with you but I think we should understand such nature. Don’t you think so?

    • rakhshanda
      Author
      August 14, 2018 / 04:01

      Thanks my dear <3

  3. August 13, 2018 / 13:29

    You look cute! And also this is nice, you have a good mood šŸ™‚

    • rakhshanda
      Author
      August 14, 2018 / 04:44

      Thanks Ania <3

  4. August 13, 2018 / 14:47

    Oh, I understand you not wanting to speak in front of lots of people. I’m the same way. It’s much easier to write our thoughts and feelings than
    talk to a large crowd about them. When I was younger, I was very outgoing, but as I’ve gotten older, I cherish quiet times. You have to do what
    makes you happy and comfortable. And I know what you mean about people wanting to be around cool people. So much is hype now a days, and
    I think the coolest people are the ones who are confident and sure of themselves and don’t have to follow the crowds. Stay as lovely as you are, my friend.

    ~Sheri

    • rakhshanda
      Author
      August 14, 2018 / 04:49

      Thanks a lot, Sheri for this sweet comment. So glad to know about you and our similar nature makes us friends. You are so sweet I got to know just after reading your posts. Our writing gives a real reflection of our nature. You will find me a good friend. Love you.

  5. August 13, 2018 / 18:24

    You’re right, people often judge introverts. We need to understand that not everyone is the same, some people are extroverts, some introverts and some are in-between. There are so many different personality types out there. Understanding the differences can help us understand people better. For example, all my life I’ve been seen like an extrovert, especially by my friends, but I’m actually an introvert. I appear to be extrovert because I’m passionate about ‘community and humanitarian work’ and such things, but in reality I’m a very private person. I even took one personality test and it describes me as an ‘advocate’, the rarest personality type. Taking that test made me realize so many things about myself. I’m a fake extrovert. I’m talkative and good at debating. I don’t find it difficult to get in front of people and speak in public. Nevertheless, I’m very much an introvert. I take friendship very seriously and I prefer to have less friends but to be very close to them, then to have many and have a casual friendship. BTW I think lots of bloggers are actually introverts!

    p.s. Love your outfit. Beautiful combo of a shirt dress and jeans!

    • rakhshanda
      Author
      August 14, 2018 / 05:00

      Thank you so much, Ivana for this lovely comment. You are right that we all need to understand human nature well. So nice to know about you and I found your nature quite similar to my younger sister. She is talkative if you will meet her but when you will get closer with her you find her introvert. You are right that such people are fake extrovert but I think you are better than me. People will never consider you rude or arrogant. Anyways, It’s life and we have to deal all kinds of people. hahaha

  6. August 14, 2018 / 08:25

    Hello my dear friend, it speaks in your favour that you didn’t follow the invitation as you don’t feel good in such environments. Being an introvert is definitely not rude! And I love your look with the long shirt.
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
    http://www.dressedwithsoul.com

    • rakhshanda
      Author
      August 15, 2018 / 04:14

      Thanks my dear friend <3

  7. LoveT.
    August 14, 2018 / 09:15

    You look super cute, the Photos are adorable! I understand you, lots of Hugs <3

    • rakhshanda
      Author
      August 15, 2018 / 04:15

      Thanks for understanding me love <3

  8. August 14, 2018 / 13:19

    I agree and I think it is awful when people judge someone. I’m very introverted right away so it is hard for me to be personable to someone new.

    http://www.rdsobsessions.com

    • rakhshanda
      Author
      August 15, 2018 / 04:45

      Thanks.

  9. rakhshanda
    Author
    August 15, 2018 / 04:17

    You are right, it’s really awful. I’m happy to find so many friends here. Thank you <3

  10. August 15, 2018 / 16:28

    Beautiful photos Rakhshanda!

  11. Gabrielle
    August 16, 2018 / 08:28

    Oh, you’re FAR too lovely for anyone to consider you rude! I really love this post topic, as I’m sure many people have confused the two personality traits with many people over time! Hope you’re having a wonderful week so far darling šŸ™‚

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