Walking back home last night from the corner store in our neighborhood, I caught myself inadvertently skipping over a section of freshly repaired road. Looking closely, I realized the repair work was a bit uneven in that place. Someone walking over it unaware might stumble or even trip; it was in fact, as I recalled from a few days back, exactly what had happened to me. A part of my brain had used that memory and made me skip to avoid the same mishap from happening again, without me even realizing it.
All of us do it, come to think of it. It is the very nature of our brain, to learn from past experiences and condition itself. Be it taking our first set of steady steps as a child, standing and falling and standing again and all the while building balance, or learning to ride a bicycle, or even building our natural reactions. We didn’t do it right the first time, but it didn’t matter. Our brain learnt from our past mistakes we made and eventually mastered the situation.
Yet, when it comes to our conscious decisions, do we act the same? Many times, not. We tend to dwell on the mistake itself, not being able to forgive and berating ourselves for it. Sometimes we blame others around us for actions we have no control on. And worst, sometimes our mistakes bring in us the perpetual fear of ever trying again for the fear of failing.
Understanding the notion that your last mistake is your best teacher is to first agree to the fact that we all make mistakes. Nobody is born to do something perfect. All of us better ourselves using trial and error. The trick is to identify the slip-up, learn what you did wrong so you may not repeat it, and then let go of the mistake. This way, your every mistake teaches you a valuable lesson on how to deal with similar situations in the future, thus improving you, just as a teacher would.
To learn, you must first be aware of what you did wrong in the first place. Try to identify which of your action(s) lead to the slip-up. Sometimes you may find it easier to find an excuse or justification, or even blame others, but it is imperative to realize that (a) we all make mistakes and (b) you are defined not by your mistakes, but what you do next to overcome them. Accepting your blunder and caring enough to better it is in itself a major step towards self-improvement.
Once you know what you did wrong, you must make sure to not repeat it again. Now this is easier said than done and varies depending upon your situation. You may need more knowledge, for example, to handle a similar financial situation in the future. Or be more patient, or more persistent. If you decide to go for advice, be smart about who you take it from. Whatever it may be, in the future, you will find yourself in a better position than last time. So, keep trying, and learn to not give up in the face of failure.
One thing that helps me personally in such times is to seek wisdom from people more experienced than me: my parents and my elders. They have lived life much longer than me, and while the number of their mistakes may be greater than mine, they have refined themselves so much further because of it.
And finally, learn to let go. To forgive yourself of your past mistakes and to rejoice in the fact that you used them to better yourself. Dwelling on your past actions will not help you in any way but accepting your mistake and moving on certainly will. Once you use your past mistakes to condition yourself you inherently become a better, more mature and a more successful person. So, learn to be easy on yourself since you are your own worst critic.
So, you see, your past mistake is nothing but your best teacher, giving you the opportunity to succeed the next time, to better yourself, to grow. Every challenge in life where you might fail also serves as an invaluable lesson on how to eventually overcome it. And when you finally succeed, you will look back at your failures as stepping-stones towards your success, your own personal road to your eventual triumph. Never be afraid of trying something for the fear of failing, since failure is the key ingredient to winning. It is a way more fulfilling life when you take a chance, fail and then improve than when you simply do not try for the fear of making a mistake.
I hope some of my thoughts will give you all a way to look at your past errors from a fresh, more positive perspective, that every mistake can teach you and better you, if you want it to. It’s something we don’t give too much thought to, taking it for obvious, but is surprisingly absent in our actual lives. It certainly gave me some thoughts to chew on, as I completed my walk last night. If a mere bump on the road can teach us to be a bit more agile, our past mistakes, with the set of experience and knowledge they bring, can certainly teach us to be a better version of ourselves. So keep trying, and keep improving!
Coming to my outfit:
Now about my today’s outfit, it’s a comfortable and simple outfit which one can wear for going outside in this season. I usually like wearing such comfy outfits. I wore my new pair of blue jeans with a white top (the top is inside my pullover so you can’t see it:) ) I covered myself with a pullover which I bought recently from the Christmas sale. The pullover is so fine and very cosy and comfortable. I finished this look with a pair of boots which are also very comfy and a cute handbag.
Cardigan – Dorothy Perkins
Jeans – H&M
Bag – DressBerry
Sunglasses – Old Ted Smith
Boots – Amiclubwear