Life is full of ups and downs: a common saying. Everyone experiences these two factors through the course of their lives. Some people experience the former more than the latter. If I talk about myself though, it’s been the downs that have been a majority in my life .Whenever happiness tries to knock on my door of life, the clouds of sadness don’t allow it to enter. But I can’t complain because it is all a part of one’s destiny I believe.
I know that there are a lot of people in this world who suffer more than me and still fight with their problems and deal with life successfully.
We often see the smiling faces of models and actresses and think that these celebrities and superstars are rich and well settled in their life without any pains and sufferings but reality is not exactly what we think. Behind the bright sparkling smile and immaculate faces there can be a crying and wounded heart.
We can’t see or feel the pain hidden behind someone’s smile
I have been facing a lot of unfortunate situations in my life earlier. Recently I had to deal another storm of pain when my father got seriously ill in Iran.
He was on a visit of holy Karbala in Iraq and then Iran for ziyrat with my mother and sister.
They completed most of their journey without any problem but the unfortunate incident happened just after reaching Iran. He was not only hospitalized but also had to go on ventilator. The situation was so miserable that we were unable to understand what to do. He was with a travelling tour with a group of other tourists. The group people couldn’t stay there. The staff of the hospital spoke Persian language. They rarely spoke or understood English. it was very hard to focus on the right thing to do. Me and my sisters were totally out of our mind. We communicated with WhatsApp/Skype only. We lived with a strange fear. We didn’t know what was going to happen. I believed in God. I continuously kept praying to Him.
I couldn’t sleep for 4-5 nights. Every moment was like a burden on our minds. We used to comfort each other, give strength to each other and some times used to fight with frustration and helplessness. But amidst our fears and sadness we all kept deep faith in God. That we weren’t wrong, that our prayers would be answered and our father would get well. We all have strong faith in God but still cried silently. The strange fear of loss kept hovering in my mind like an insect.
That was probably 5th sleepless night, while offering Fijr(morning) namaz and praying to God deeply from inside my heart, with tears rolling from my eyes, I felt a strange peace and relaxation in me. I don’t remember exactly how long. The only thing I felt clearly was that Someone had listened to me and He will take care of everything now. The next morning my sister informed me that my father’s condition was improving. The news was like a fresh breeze for all of us. The storm started to calm and we all knew that all was going to be fine.
After 3 days, doctors allowed him to travel back to India There were still some risks in this journey but we all assured ourselves that all would be fine.
My father is now in Delhi and feeling quite better. His treatment has resumed here and I hope that he will get well soon.
“Life is like a roller coaster. It’s one wild ride, but worth every second!”
I read this famous quote when I was in school, that time I was unable to understand the real meaning n purport of this sentence. But the life taught me the truth behind this quote. When circumstances are in your control, you take it for granted and no fear approaches your mind but when it’s out of your control and the road of life starts leading you to a darker way then you get to know the hardship and uncertainty of life. I experienced it several times in my life, which actually feel like a roller coaster ride. You are doubtful some times and hopeful the next moment. Some times a little bit hesitant fearful shaky and next minute thrilled. You swing with a lot more ups and downs on this ride but the thing that make you successful in this ride is your patience. Patience, persistence and belief in God bring you to your destination successfully.
How to deal with sadness
When the octopus of uncertainty and fear clenches you, when things do not work as planned, it is really hard to deal with it. You often lose your control. It happened with me too but I never gave up. I Learned from life how to deal with my fear, unnerving risk and fear of loss. I got to know that every day of our life is a challenge which we have to accept. We have to accept it either happily or unwillingly. So why not to take it as a challenge.
The things that really work
If you get yourself in such a big stressful situation, keep the following ways in your mind. Believe me they really work.
Complete faith in God
The most effective method that will help you overcome the storm of stress is praying to the almighty God. Hardly matters what religion you follow, believe deep inside your heart. Keep praying, request to the real Super power and submit everything matter in His hands. He really takes care of everything perfectly, just trust Him.
Try to control over your emotions and fear
Off course, it’s difficult no one can understand the situation you u are in but you have to do something to control it. Talk to someone you love or rather sitting alone and crying. I shared my fear and emotion with someone I feel close.
Do whatever things you love to do
Another tough task that you can’t think of doing in such condition but you have to do it to deal with it. Read books or do whatever things you love to do which you think can take you out of stress. For me, it’s the blogging that prevented me from going out of control. I remember, I was crying but still didn’t give up writing my blog post. Sometimes I feel a guilt by doing so but I knew this is the only thing that channelizes my emotions.
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