Good To Forgive, Best To Forget

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Reasons why you should forgive someone

If someone does something wrong with you or hurts you, how do you feel? Don’t you want to take revenge from that person or at least want to teach a lesson for it? It’s normal, usually, we all think like that. If you are told to forgive that person, do you think it’ll be easy? It seems almost unnatural that someone really hurt you and you still forgive that person and move ahead!

When I was a girl and I passed through such kinds of situations, I used to feel extremely angry. It so happened numerous times that I was cheated and got hurt by someone close or friends.  In those conditions, I felt angry or even hated that person.It made me restless for many days. Gradually, that rage decreased but still a feeling of hatred used to live inside me.

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A lesson learned…

I remembered an incident of my childhood, I was a 9 year old girl. We live in a joint family with my grandparents, uncles and cousins. A cousin who was of my age and quite close to me, hurt me once. I was so angry and shared my feelings with my teacher. He used to come to teach me the Holy Quran and other religious books. He was so kind as a person but very strict as a teacher. I loved the way he used to teach about Islam and the other things. He listened to me with patience and didn’t say anything. I was waiting badly for his response. but he started to teach me as usual, I was so restless and tense that I was not able to study anything.

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He supposedly recognized my situation so he stopped teaching me and said “So what do you want now? I was filled with rage so I said: “Sir, I want to teach her a lesson for this.” He smiled and said “no, you should forgive her and forget everything” He really disappointed me with his answer. I thought he had not taken me seriously but that was not true. He said ” Forgiveness is not something we do for other people, we do it for ourselves, When you will forgive your cousin, you will feel happy yourself” after that he told me a story of Prophet Muhammad. I still remember that story and really want to share with you.

Prophet Muhammad was the most forgiving person. He was ever ready to forgive his enemies. When he went to Ta’if (a city) to preach God’s message to its people, they mistreated him. They abused him and hit him with stones. He left the city humiliated and wounded. When he took shelter under a tree, God’s angel appeared to him and told him that God was very angry with the people of Taif and has sent him to destroy them because they mistreated God’s beloved Prophet. The Prophet prayed to God to save the people of Ta’if because what they did was out of their ignorance. He said: “O Allah, guide these people because they did not know what they were doing.

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This story and my teacher’s thoughts had given a new way to think about such matters. He told me that Allah loves the people who forgive their enemies. By doing this, one actually sets oneself free from anger and restlessness. I have experienced it myself, earlier I used to feel a hell of bitterness and dwell on the pain until I had not learned to forgive. Whenever I forgave someone, the feeling after that was amazing. It seemed as if a burden went away from my heart and I felt light and free. From that day until today, I got hurt numerous times got myself filled with anger and rage but I tried that weapon which I got from my teacher and that worked always.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean you are weak- Some people think that if they forgive someone it means they are weak and not strong enough to teach some a lesson. it’s not true at all, actually, We only forgive someone when we are strong, a weak person can never forgive anyone because it so hard to forgive ones who hurt you or cheat you.

To forgive someone is the most beautiful task– I have experienced it many times, whenever you forgive someone who has wronged you, you not only get high respect from that person but you also come closer to your God.

Forgiveness is something for ourselves – I love this quote that I read once ” To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you” It’s completely true, you pass through from a great pain, anger and bitterness until you forgive. Once you do it, you feel free and happy.

I will always remember my teacher’s lesson and I have taught the same to my children. I get a great peace of mind by doing this. However, I know sometimes it’s really hard to do it. But if you think positively and take some time to make a decision, you will find it always right.

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Coming to my outfit:

Let’s talk about my outfit now. It seems I’m very much on an ethnic outfit spree these days, isn’t it? But them you all know how greatly inclined I am towards beautiful and colourful Indian attires. And more so in spring/summer as they are best suited for the hot Indian summers and very comfortable. For example this long, button down teal kurta had been lying in my closet all winters and finally I got the chance to wear it. Similar to my last week’s outfit, this one too is a pair up of two such shades which are completely different from each other but lie somewhere close to each other in the colour palette. I wore this kurta with an ethnic, blue long skirt and matched it with a blue dupatta. Kept my makeup minimum but a little dark and my hair loose. What do you think about this outfit?

I’m wearing:

Kurta – Jabong

Skirt – Jabong

Dupatta – Biba

Sandals – ALDO

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11 Comments

    • rakhshanda
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      April 10, 2018 / 04:36

      Thanks a lot dear <3

  1. jodie filogomo
    April 2, 2018 / 10:45

    What a fabulous post, Rakhshanda. Forgiveness is more for ourselves because carrying around anger and resentment is never good for our health or mind. I think it’s taken me my older age to realize this, and I wish I had known it sooner.
    You are so lovely in your outfit and your words!! Thank you so much for this!!
    XOXO
    Jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

    • rakhshanda
      Author
      April 10, 2018 / 04:39

      You are right Jodie, it’s really good to realize it soon. Thanks a lot dear for your lovely comment <3

  2. April 2, 2018 / 12:44

    Traditional outfits are always especially inspiring! I love how you styled this outfit. That kurta is beautiful and it looks great paired with a skirt. I would never think of pairing those two items together, but they look so perfect together. The scarf is a lovely touch as well. The colours are so well coordinated.

    Forgiveness is important, and I agree with you that is important for ourselves. Often we think of forgiveness as something that we do for other people, but we need to do it for ourselves as well. When we forgive someone, it is easier to move on. We can’t be happy if we are always angry at everyone, if we hold grunges all the time. In that sense, that advice that your teacher gave you really makes sense. I do try to forgive everyone, but sometimes I struggle with it. I’m a very patient person, but when I get really angry at someone, I usually don’t forget easily. I’m not vindictive, I don’t have the urge to punish anyone for anything, but I usually distance myself from people who have hurt me. I need to work on my ability to forgive others.

  3. April 2, 2018 / 12:55

    Wow…it look super amazing…thx for sharing

  4. April 2, 2018 / 22:42

    Beautiful! So true forgiveness has the power to free you of any anger. It’s so good for the soul!

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    • rakhshanda
      Author
      April 3, 2018 / 12:59

      Thanks <3

  5. April 4, 2018 / 20:47

    Very insightful post Rakhshanda! It’s true forgiving others who hurt you can be hard, but you should forgive in order to heal and move forward. Beautiful pictures and outfit!